I don't see anything wrong or neglectful in allowing your children a modicum of privacy and the room to make their own mistakes. They obviously shouldn't have available to them the same privileges and freedoms as an adult but a parenting style founded upon mutual respect and trust and the willingness to appropriately correct and reward behavior results in children who develop into mature, adjustable and self-confident adults.
Children need to understand that the onus for their success or failure is ultimately on them. Forcing your kids to feel they're serving a life sentence in the panopticon only leads them to become really good at lying and hiding.
Like any relationship, communication is key.
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Originally Posted by shakran
It's much easier to not go through all the work of checking up on your kid by claiming the kid has a right to privacy than it is to face criticism when you say what you really mean, which is "I don't feel like doing the work that I agreed to do when I took on the job as parent."
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Yes and those who don't share my same exact appreciation for art, wine, concerts, cars, cinema and whatever else are nothing more than uncivilized cavemen.
