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It's a balancing act. Too little privacy, and the child doesn't learn independence. Too much runs the risk of the kid doing the stupid things kids do.
You can't protect your teenager from everything out in the Big Bad World. Education and openness are effective tools and need to be employed alongside supervision.
Age plays a role too. The teenage years a a time of rapid development. What's appropriate for a 14 year old is very different to what's appropriate for a 17 year old. I'm of the opinion that by the time they're old enough to drive you've probably missed out on your chance to teach them the proper habits to protect themselves anyway.
I don't agree with the idea that children don't deserve any privacy. I think it's an issue of trust, and I think showing your children you trust them is key to having a good relationship and helping your child learn to make the right decisions on their own. The flip side of that, of course, is that trust must be earned.
But no. Checking and/or removing Myspace isn't a real privacy violation, especially if Myspace is a continued source of trouble. Rights come with responsibilities. Don't live up to the responsibilities, lose the right.
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I get through cryin' and I'm sadder than before I wept
I get through thinkin' now, and the thoughts have left my head
I get through speakin' and I can't remember, not a word that I said
- Ben Harper, Show Me A Little Shame
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