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Originally Posted by woohog1
We ended up talking for a few minutes and she kinda sorta told me what the problem was. She said that 1. she thinks she is fat 2. she doesnt like her boobs, thinks they are too big, and too saggy, 3. she says "im tired of having kids crawl all over me all day, the last thing i want is someone else touching me"
she is on lexapro, so she wont be as depressed.
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The Lexapro is a problem from the start. Talk to her about the medication and maybe you and her can go to her doctor and discuss other options.
Then start small. Ask her if you can wash her hair when she is in the shower. If she lets you, don't make any sexual moves. Just wash her hair, love her and let it go.
Ask her if you can give her a massage. Or a bath. Again, don't make it sexual, let her see that you will and want to touch her body in a non-sexual way. This will help build her confidence and let you touch her when it is "non-threatening", ie: non-sexual.
If you watch porn and she knows it, she is feeling inadequate. That is the biggest problem with women and men and porn. They feel their man is "comparing" them to what they see.
It would appear there are deeper and more serious problems than can be solved by those who are reading.
True love will find a way. If you can't, it's not your or her fault. If you do, then you will truly know love. Either way, love, try, compromise and you will know.