james t kirk

I'm gonna break from the pack on this one.

Divorce.

I really doubt she's going to change - ever. So you either accept it or move on. If sex is important to you and it sounds like it is, my advice would be to move on sooner rather than later.

Now before everyone jumps all over me and accuse me of being an insensitive prick, I'm not being insensitive, I'm being realistic here.

This isn't "body image" issues. That's a cop out. The original poster stated that his wife doens't even want to touch his cock. What does HIS COCK have to do with her body image??? I could buy the body image thing if she didn't like him to see her, but what's the deal with her refusing to touch him, or even look at him. That's not normal.

Nope, the answer is always more simple - she's just not into sex. (For whatever reason - there could be plenty - abuse, puritanical upbringing, latent homosexual, or just plain asexual (there are lots of those out there.))

I am curious though.... how is it that you didn't know this before you got married? Did she throw all kinds of guilt issues at you then and promise you that once you got married, it would be legitimate then and things would be better? (I had a good friend who went through that - guess what....it didn't get any better. New excuses replaced old excuses.)

So your choices are:

1. Move on and find yourself a nice horny woman (there are lots out there.)

2. Live with it and be asexual yourself.

3. Live with it, but find yourself a girlfriend

---------- Post added at 07:24 PM ---------- Previous post was at 07:21 PM ----------

No, wanting intimacy is normal. Avoiding it or supressing it is NOT normal.