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Originally Posted by Liv
Thanks so much for all your info. We met again today and had an intensely good time. We had purchased a strap on with an enormous black dildo, which ended up being too big for him to take and he apologized profusely, over and over, which really turned me on. I really like this role
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And like a good Dom, you used it on YOURSELF first, right? So that you knew exactly what the item/act was capable of doing and the amount of potential pain/damage that item was capable of causing? And then I'm sure you sat down with him beforehand, fully clothed, and asked him what level of pain he wants, if any, or if he is still experimenting to figure that out. Has he talked to you about things that are off limits? Do you know whether or not he likes to be called names/degraded? If he is an experienced Sub, and had to coax you into this, he probably should have brought much of this into conversation. Everyone needs a safe word that is absolutely heeded with no retrobution, but since you are new to this Halanna's green/yellow/red light suggestion might be a good idea. Until you learn how to read him. From what I understand, part of a Dom's job is paying constant attention to what you are doing to another person both physically and emotionally.