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sunstone · 05-10-2009, 02:58 PM

So how did it work out? You never mentioned how the others in your group felt about his behavior or if they even ever mentioned it.

All those that recommended getting him out of the group are right -- sooner rather than later -- and you'll all wish you'd done it even sooner. When you're out in the world and part of a business unit of some kind, you'll find that early open communication among a group about things like this is of ultimate importance. You never want a group to suffer for the sake of one of its members that doesn't conform. One clear and direct warning, then, if no results, cut out the cancer and get the group to focus on its mission. The problem is often that people are just too polite to confront anti-social behavior.

Hope this is close to what happened here.

05-10-2009, 02:58 PM	#24 (permalink)
sunstone Upright Location: Pacific Northwest	So how did it work out? You never mentioned how the others in your group felt about his behavior or if they even ever mentioned it. All those that recommended getting him out of the group are right -- sooner rather than later -- and you'll all wish you'd done it even sooner. When you're out in the world and part of a business unit of some kind, you'll find that early open communication among a group about things like this is of ultimate importance. You never want a group to suffer for the sake of one of its members that doesn't conform. One clear and direct warning, then, if no results, cut out the cancer and get the group to focus on its mission. The problem is often that people are just too polite to confront anti-social behavior. Hope this is close to what happened here.