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raeanna74 · 04-26-2009, 07:13 PM

I am trying to do my best and I think my parents tried to do their best as they saw it and other parents where the same. Granted there's the few who don't give a shit or think their kid can do no wrong but for the majority of parents, they TRY to parent well. That's all we can hope to do. My parents were overly strict and they were boomers, my friends parents at that time were overly lax mostly - not my childhood friends (the ones I still hear about) have tended to swing to the overly strict or Helicoper parents. I think we tend to react to our parents percieved shortcomings by over reacting. I hope I'm not doing too poorly.

As far as the independence thing - I have to brag a little here. My daughter, who is 8, does not give me any trouble with worry over her going to friends houses. She has many friends within only a few blocks and I frequently give her the freedom of going to their homes to play. She has consistantly called me if she wants to stop at another friend's house on the way home or go to her friend's mom's shop or the bakery a block down from there (please keep in mind the size of our town and lack of crime - population 2000, and county sheriff station is here). She even comes home within 10 minutes, give or take, from any appointed time that I give her. For the last year, as far as I can remember, she has not given me any cause to worry. I've always known where she was and what she was doing. I hope that keeps up, it really makes that part of parenting EASY!

04-26-2009, 07:13 PM	#33 (permalink)
raeanna74 I'm not a blonde! I'm knot! I'm knot! I'm knot! Location: Upper Michigan	I am trying to do my best and I think my parents tried to do their best as they saw it and other parents where the same. Granted there's the few who don't give a shit or think their kid can do no wrong but for the majority of parents, they TRY to parent well. That's all we can hope to do. My parents were overly strict and they were boomers, my friends parents at that time were overly lax mostly - not my childhood friends (the ones I still hear about) have tended to swing to the overly strict or Helicoper parents. I think we tend to react to our parents percieved shortcomings by over reacting. I hope I'm not doing too poorly. As far as the independence thing - I have to brag a little here. My daughter, who is 8, does not give me any trouble with worry over her going to friends houses. She has many friends within only a few blocks and I frequently give her the freedom of going to their homes to play. She has consistantly called me if she wants to stop at another friend's house on the way home or go to her friend's mom's shop or the bakery a block down from there (please keep in mind the size of our town and lack of crime - population 2000, and county sheriff station is here). She even comes home within 10 minutes, give or take, from any appointed time that I give her. For the last year, as far as I can remember, she has not given me any cause to worry. I've always known where she was and what she was doing. I hope that keeps up, it really makes that part of parenting EASY! __________________ "Always learn the rules so that you can break them properly." Dalai Lama My Karma just ran over your Dogma. Last edited by raeanna74; 04-26-2009 at 07:16 PM..