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The "game rules" for playtime shouldn't come up before sex at the very least in my opinion. After sex though you can lead into the conversation by saying "You know I really liked when you..." and then tell a few more things that you do enjoy. I wouldn't have an exhaustive list prepared at all but giving a few ideas of things you like will give him a better idea of the kinds of things you are into. You should then ask him what things he likes and doesn't like in that same conversation. Or if he's not sure of those things yet you could ask what he's curious about. I wouldn't say that you are absolutely excluding things yet. I would only say that, for example, you "aren't interested in scat, bondage, or anything on the more extreme side of things" and then preface it with a 'but I would like to try .... (For example) a blindfold and feather." or something that he CAN do that would be experimental. That way you're not giving him a whole list of NO'S. That would get negative and be a definate turn off.
As you go on in the relationship and have more sexual fun just keep adding to the "I like" and "I don't like" lists gently. IMHO a good guy will listen very carefully to those preferances. If he doesn't, he's not worth the time in my book.
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