I forgot to mention one thing that is, to me, pretty much non-negotiable. At my ripe old age (32 last November) I don't jump in the rack with a guy as easily as I once did.
If I'm going to be in any kind of extended relationship with a guy, he must be, and act, like a responsible adult. This has nothing to do with the sexual part, (good sex isn't that hard to find) and has little to do with actual age. Some guys are "adults" at age 18, or maybe even sooner. Others can be 30, 40, or 50, and still not there yet.
See this thread from sometime in the past. Here it is:
http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/ladies-...ities-guy.html
Lindy
I just re-read my first sentence. How can something be "pretty much" non-negotiable??