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RogueGypsy · 03-31-2009, 10:02 AM

About a month ago I met a great lady. We became great friends right away (our first date lasted 10 hrs). Since meeting we've spent every weekend together doing whatever happened to be going on. It feels like I've found my best friend. There was an instant level of comfort, like we've known each other for years, it amazing.

That said, we both seem to be on foreign soil in this burgeoning relationship. Neither of us have felt or are feeling that SHAZAAM! lightning bolt of attraction we've always experienced in the past with others. We enjoy being around each other, but don't yearn for the other when apart. We both think it's a little strange and don't know what to think of it. Neither of us is willing to 'give up' just yet, we want to see were it leads. But at the same time, neither of us wants to just prolong a relationship that is never really going to happen.

She is everything I think I'm looking for in a partner and she says the same of me. Although a small caveat to this is for both of us, we are completely different people than we are used to dating. I seem to attract and enjoy 'crazy' women, the unpredictable, high maintenance types that make life interesting. While she is very grounded, relaxed and decidedly low maintenance. She seems to attract wildly unstable men with loads of baggage and a lack of respect for their fellow human beings. While I'm, like her, settle in my life, easy going and conscious of those around me.

My question is this: Is it possible to have a fulfilling long term relationship without having that initial 'infatuation' for lack of better term?

It would be awesome to spend the rest of my life with this person, I just don't want to find myself looking elsewhere for that missing spark.

Thanks

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RogueGypsy Insane Location: The Great NorthWet	a different kind of relationship.....Question. About a month ago I met a great lady. We became great friends right away (our first date lasted 10 hrs). Since meeting we've spent every weekend together doing whatever happened to be going on. It feels like I've found my best friend. There was an instant level of comfort, like we've known each other for years, it amazing. That said, we both seem to be on foreign soil in this burgeoning relationship. Neither of us have felt or are feeling that SHAZAAM! lightning bolt of attraction we've always experienced in the past with others. We enjoy being around each other, but don't yearn for the other when apart. We both think it's a little strange and don't know what to think of it. Neither of us is willing to 'give up' just yet, we want to see were it leads. But at the same time, neither of us wants to just prolong a relationship that is never really going to happen. She is everything I think I'm looking for in a partner and she says the same of me. Although a small caveat to this is for both of us, we are completely different people than we are used to dating. I seem to attract and enjoy 'crazy' women, the unpredictable, high maintenance types that make life interesting. While she is very grounded, relaxed and decidedly low maintenance. She seems to attract wildly unstable men with loads of baggage and a lack of respect for their fellow human beings. While I'm, like her, settle in my life, easy going and conscious of those around me. My question is this: Is it possible to have a fulfilling long term relationship without having that initial 'infatuation' for lack of better term? It would be awesome to spend the rest of my life with this person, I just don't want to find myself looking elsewhere for that missing spark. Thanks __________________ Methods, application and intensity of application vary by the individual. All legal wavers must be signed before 'treatment' begins. Self 'Medicating' is not recommend. However, if necessary, it is best to have an 'assistant' or 'soft landing zone' nearby. Any and all legal issues resulting from improperly applied techniques should be forwarded to: Dewy, Cheatum & Howe, Intercourse, PA 17534. Attn: Anonymous.