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Well, I talked to her again this evening, and her main point is that she feels that the toys are not *me* creating the pleasure for her. She sort of feels like she's cheating on me, although she isn't.
We have a couple different views on sex, and how we approach it. There's the down and dirty, raw, animalistic stuff that sometimes, we just have to have each other. Usually those are just random, unplanned events, started by small stuff. During those times, she doesn't seem to have much of a problem with anything, and it's much easier for her to achieve an orgasm.
Then there's the couple-type stuff, lovemaking. Actually, thinking about it now, we don't have a lot of time during the day to spend together, so I think I'm finding some of the problems (right now, in my head). Our sex has become somewhat of a ritual, I guess you could say (end of the day, going to bed, etc). Maybe it's just the fact that she needs excitement and alteration of timeframes/locations (besides the bedroom I mean, not in public or anything). I needed to take a fresh perspective on the whole thing, as women and men have a vastly different mindset. Meaning, I wouldn't care what time and place it was, if I'm getting some, I'm getting some. I'll try and switch it up for her, maybe stuff can be better for her.
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