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I don't think anything the OP did is terribly wrong, but in my personal experience every man I have ever spent considerable time with has gained weight (30-50 lbs +) over the course of the relationship. It's never been a thing that bothered me. But if it did, I would think that is my problem and not my spouse's. How is she as a partner? A lover? A friend? If she is filling those needs and you are still preoccupied her appearance, then you are in the relationship for the wrong reasons. If she is not filling those needs, those are the problems you need to concentrate on.
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