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Originally Posted by Cynthetiq
So if you have crooked teeth and didn't think anything wrong of it, you'd be okay with someone getting you a gift certificate for dental work?
You've had your own bout with weight loss, some girl was interested in you, you'd not take umbrage if she got you an appointment with a doctor to get a gastric bypass?
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Firstly I'm not denying that I'm fat. Anyone who see's me can tell that I am, and I know I am too.
A gastric bypass is a bit different to a gym membership though.
If a girl I was with bought me a gym membership, or said in a nice way - you need to lose weight - it might make me feel bad about myself, and that might me take it badly... but I dont think I'd blow up about it. I understand if you feel bad about yourself anyway it can hurt to realise other people see you the same way you do yourself and maybe this girl reacted the same way. But I wouldnt be pissed off with her, because ultimately she'd be trying to encourage me to do something that was in my own interests, presumably because she cared about it. I dont think its likely that many people are happy being overweight. I know that I never have been.
And if a girl did book an appointment with a doctor for a Gastric Bypass or whatever, I wouldnt go and I guess we'd probably have to have a talk. If she said - I'm going to dump you if you dont lose this much weight in this much time or something - I'd probably say "you wont have to bother darling, because you can forget about the whole thing in any case" - but this guy hasnt said anything to his girl like that. At the end of he day, if he isnt attracted to her because of her size, or if she feels unhappy enough about her size that she goes off sex - is he supposed to just lie and pretend everythings fine and happy? What good does that do either of them?