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Hyacinthe · 03-12-2009, 02:14 AM

Sadly I don't think the number is exagarrated at all, think about the number of women you know that have been raped, sexually abused or beaten.

Pretty much every woman I know has been in one of these situations atleast once, that means there are alot of guys out there that think this behaviour is ok. There are also alot of women out there that have either grown up believeing that it's a mans right to discipline his family and chattel physically or who believe that they deserve it, see it as a sign of jealousy and therefore caring etc.

The influx of immigrants from Arabic / Middle Eastern countries may be having a heavy impact on the percentage of people who believe it's ok to hit women but I have no doubts that even in countries with low immigrations rates (like Australia) the rate of domestic abuse related crimes is steadily rising.

I don't think a domestic abuse register like te one currently available in regards to child molesters would be all that helpful actually. One of the main reasons that these crimes are such a big problems is because they are not reported. Just because the guy that a woman has started seeing doesn't have a record of domestic abuse doesn't mean he has not hit his ex or children or anyone else, it simply means it has not been reported.

I would be interested to see the same stats if the genders were reversed though. I wonder how many people think it's ok for a woman to hit a man because he's flirting with another woman or some other similarly minor offence. I'd also like to know why domestic abuse directed towards men is never discussed, it is so much harder for a man to admit that he is in an abusive relationship, especially if the abuse is physical, and with men (or some of them) being raised with the idea that 'you don't hit girls' they are left with no way to defend themselves whatsoever, atleast it is perfectly socially acceptable for a woman to defend herself, a man doing the same thing is likely to be arrested and charged with abuse himself.

I would also like to know what the people polled regard as being sexually provocative or revealing clothing - that's never specified in the survey.

There are a couple of things in the survey I find interesting actually - the fact that people are more likely to inform the police about abuse if it's a friend or neighbour as opposed to a family member and that almost half the people surveyed believed a prostitute is atleast partially responsible if she gets raped.

03-12-2009, 02:14 AM	#15 (permalink)
Hyacinthe Psycho Location: Australia	Sadly I don't think the number is exagarrated at all, think about the number of women you know that have been raped, sexually abused or beaten. Pretty much every woman I know has been in one of these situations atleast once, that means there are alot of guys out there that think this behaviour is ok. There are also alot of women out there that have either grown up believeing that it's a mans right to discipline his family and chattel physically or who believe that they deserve it, see it as a sign of jealousy and therefore caring etc. The influx of immigrants from Arabic / Middle Eastern countries may be having a heavy impact on the percentage of people who believe it's ok to hit women but I have no doubts that even in countries with low immigrations rates (like Australia) the rate of domestic abuse related crimes is steadily rising. I don't think a domestic abuse register like te one currently available in regards to child molesters would be all that helpful actually. One of the main reasons that these crimes are such a big problems is because they are not reported. Just because the guy that a woman has started seeing doesn't have a record of domestic abuse doesn't mean he has not hit his ex or children or anyone else, it simply means it has not been reported. I would be interested to see the same stats if the genders were reversed though. I wonder how many people think it's ok for a woman to hit a man because he's flirting with another woman or some other similarly minor offence. I'd also like to know why domestic abuse directed towards men is never discussed, it is so much harder for a man to admit that he is in an abusive relationship, especially if the abuse is physical, and with men (or some of them) being raised with the idea that 'you don't hit girls' they are left with no way to defend themselves whatsoever, atleast it is perfectly socially acceptable for a woman to defend herself, a man doing the same thing is likely to be arrested and charged with abuse himself. I would also like to know what the people polled regard as being sexually provocative or revealing clothing - that's never specified in the survey. There are a couple of things in the survey I find interesting actually - the fact that people are more likely to inform the police about abuse if it's a friend or neighbour as opposed to a family member and that almost half the people surveyed believed a prostitute is atleast partially responsible if she gets raped. __________________ "I want to be remembered as the girl who always smiles even when her heart is broken... and the one that could brighten up your day even if she couldnt brighten her own" "Her emotions were clear waters. You could see the scarring and pockmarks at the bottom of the pool, but it was just a part of her landscape – the consequences of others’ actions in which she claimed no part."