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Originally Posted by Anonymous Member
I have been in a relation ship for 7 years.
In the last two years my girl friend has gain some weight (around 55 lbs above normal). So i tried a year ago at first to invite her to go for long walks with me or other activity's. I have also tried avoiding unhealthy food and to encourage her to eat more healthy. Just before Christmas i give her a gift certificate to a gym, unfortunately she got very angry about this. The problem now is that she wants to have the light off when we are intimate. she doesn't like to be naked. I am feeling that our relations ship has taken a bad turn. I realize that i can't discuss anything like this again with her. I suppose i was unreasonable, but how do i convince her to be more relaxed? If i give her compliments she just looks at me as i am lying.  |
To be rather blunt, what the hell did you expect? You spend two years telling her in every way possible "you're fat, you're fat, you're fat" and now you're upset that she doesn't want you to see her body?
You have some serious relationship healing to do. Tell her that you've behaved like an idiot, because you have, and that you're dating her because of who she is, not how much water she displaces. And then prove what you say by demonstrating that.
And to those who don't think the OP deserves heat - Read his post again. He did not say "my girlfriend wants to lose weight and so I tried to help her and she got pissed." He said "My girlfriend gained weight and here's what I tried to do about it." Big, big difference. I reread the OP and do not see anywhere where the OP says the girlfriend has ever said anything about her weight at all - at least not until after he sat there for 24 months trying to make her slim down at which point her reaction was pretty natural.