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starbum · 03-08-2009, 04:42 PM

I appreciate the responses.

I should clarify the "training"statement - it was not something intentional. What I meant by it was - we struggled with it for awhile and through communication we found compromises. We're both doing our best to re-establish the sexual relationship - the "training" was to reduce pressure on me. We had thought that by reducing the pressure, it would come more naturally. As I have found - that as she reduced the pressure, I found more time to find porn.

I've already taken steps to cut myself off from the addiction, I've already been able to quit smoking and drunkenness from my life.

I guess what I needed most was someone to say that I wasn't the bad guy - that there were other people out there. I'm disheartened that people automatically assumed that she would cheat - it seems like the whole world has become pessimistic about marriage.

03-08-2009, 04:42 PM	#10 (permalink)
starbum Tilted	I appreciate the responses. I should clarify the "training"statement - it was not something intentional. What I meant by it was - we struggled with it for awhile and through communication we found compromises. We're both doing our best to re-establish the sexual relationship - the "training" was to reduce pressure on me. We had thought that by reducing the pressure, it would come more naturally. As I have found - that as she reduced the pressure, I found more time to find porn. I've already taken steps to cut myself off from the addiction, I've already been able to quit smoking and drunkenness from my life. I guess what I needed most was someone to say that I wasn't the bad guy - that there were other people out there. I'm disheartened that people automatically assumed that she would cheat - it seems like the whole world has become pessimistic about marriage.