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Originally Posted by fresnelly
Brace yourself: It's a dying relationship and there's nothing you can do about it. I'm sorry.
She's compatible with you apparently, but not you with her. That means it's not going to work out in the end.
She loves you in the sense that she doesn't want to hurt you but not in as a romantic soul mate.
Be thankful for the good times you had but realize that it's time to move on.
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I'm going to go ahead and be the one to respectfully disagree. There's absolutely no way that you can tell in a finite manner that your relationship is dying. I am in the latter stages of this same situation, same age, etc. It's very similar.
We really started to drift apart, and after a long hard summer, she brought up 'taking a break' and I took this pretty hard, and stayed with my friends instead of at home. We were just past college but still living around the town, and with our housemates, but after only a very short time, I thought that I was over us and that things just weren't going to work out because of the way that I felt.
Really what I was doing unknowingly was ignoring the problems that were mostly my fault, however I was an idiot and I shamefully hid from her for 6 months, and now that I am dying inside everyday without her. At the time that we separated she was extremely upset and I was ignoring her. And because I ignored her and the problem for a good 3 months, and then once we were back to being social again I let the status quo last for another 3 months, and she has worked hard to move on, and now I am the one who is extremely upset over the situation.
If you truly love someone, with your entire being, it won't just go away, even over time. Make sure you really take the time to take inventory over what is happening, and understand what you need to do to fix it. In a successful relationship you can't be entirely self serving and you have to take pleasure in being able to sacrifice in some areas for each other. Don't miss out on a major occurrence in your life because of the little things that are getting in the way. Because you don't want to be kicking yourself for losing the girl that you should have married.
