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Where to start?
You have made a wonderful breakthrough.
Tell her about it.
Tell her mother about it.
Tell everyone you know about it.
Tell everyone you know about what you've lost.
Tell people you don't know about what you've lost.
Maybe it will keep them from making the same mistake.
Expect the relationship to be over.
Fix yourself, your life. Spoil your daughter with love. Do everything you can to clean up your life so you don't risk visitation rights. Get a job. Get your finances in order. Pay child support. Sort through the legal mess that you've put yourself into. Consider it a gift that you're on your own for this cleanup. Get yourself stable. Emotionally stable on your own. It will take time.
Once everything is sorted out - I mean EVERYTHING - debts gone, record clear, legalities sorted through, a decent home, a bit of money set aside for your daughter's education... Once you've proven you're not going to relapse, THAT is the time to tell your fiancee you still love her, if she'll take you.
Your fiancee put up with so much. It's hard for me to think that she has much self-confidence. It's hard for me to imagine she will pick a better man than you were. If you keep up with your daughter, and make everything right in your life, your fiance will see that effort.
She might come back. If she does, be prepared to forgive her for any sleeping around she did while you were apart. Be sure you're able to forgive her for anything - because if she takes you back, she is forgiving you for the incredible nightmare that you put her through.
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"Sometimes I have to remember that things are brought to me for a reason, either for my own lessons or for the benefit of others." Cynthetiq
"violence is no more or less real than non-violence." roachboy
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