We mix it up. Sometimes we take our time and play and tease, sometimes we don't have time for that and just go for it.
I get off pretty easily, so quickies can be just as good as taking it slow. Sometimes we just masturbate together. It really depends on our mood, when we get to bed or what time of day it is, and where I am in my cycle. I would say we typically have hot sex.
But I will have to take some of these suggestions and play with them; unfortunately my SO is incredibly ticklish in some very inconvenient places.