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I agree with Ilift to the extent that something resembling closure is needed, but it's not so cut and dry. Closure to the extent that she is out of your life. You do need to forget her. Of course you have these horrible lingering feelings because this is most likely the first time you've had your heart truly broken. The first one is always the worst. But the common theme everyone here says, which I fully endorse, is do other activities to take your mind off of it. It seems like you have started a decent regiment of stuff to take your mind off things (and more importantly, her), so just keep that up. But if you honestly WANT to get over her (and since she was such an important part of your life, you sort of don't want to, and you need to recognize that fact in you for the healing process), you have got to stop talking with her. Even if she constantly wants to talk to you and ultimately get back together, there's no need nor reason to trust her with your heart again. Keep gymming it up, hone your instrumental skills with your band, make sure you have the best lesson plans your school has ever seen, and keep an eye out for some cute grad students in the teacher's lounge ;-).
You'll be fine, just takes some time.
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