I go away for a week come back and find all hailing me - awesomeness!!
I guess the reason I feel porn has such a small influence for me and my other half is that for us sex isn't work and porn is.
Things like bukkake, golden showers and the like are work. He sells things about it and gets given dvd's of it that he has to watch. Bukkake is one of the major reasons that I take a giant tub of sorbolene to work with me or on a hot day will do a show in a kiddy pool filled with milk (cheap powdered crud)
We with our lifestyle are able to seperate 'work / porn' and our sex life, you have to in our industry or you'll go mad.
I'm not sure if like
dlish I include BDSM in that - for my opinion in regards to BDSM go find that "Is BDSM a sex kink" thread - I should link it but I am lazy. I think that without porn I would still crave pain and submission, in every relationship (even the ones you think are equal) there is always one person dominant and one submissive, some of us just embrace that role more then others.