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Hi all...I've been a member here for awhile but rarely post.

I was in a relationship with a woman for a little over two years and I loved her very, very much. The thing is, she was not very nice a lot of the time so I had to break it off. It actually got physical a few times and I know I don't deserve that. I am actually a very tough person and have had a rough life and was surprised how calmly I responded to her violence.

Anyway...other than her losing control of her emotions at times...I was crazy about her. Her look, her body, her life, her sex....I was absolutely in love. I am 32 and that was the first time I ever felt this strongly. Imagine the body of perfection...Jessica Alba is very close...the most beautiful woman I have ever dated.

But...after a few breakups I finally ended it for good. She moved on very quickly and was in bed with someone else within two weeks.

For me...it has been two months now. I have a few girls around but just can't have sex with them. I really, really want to have sex with them...but my body just will not work like I want.

It is frustrating because I have always been EXTREMELY sexual my entire life. I love sex. I need it. And frankly I am very good at it.

So...anyone been in this situation before? Is it normal for an ended relationship to take away a mans ability to perform?

How long will this last?

It is really killing my self esteem. I have always taken great pride in my ability to please women and I just....don't know....I feel so empty. It is so easy for women to have sex...yet us men are stuck here dealing with issues.

The cool thing is I am very casual with a few girls and they aren't pressuring me...they understand where I am right now and I am just avoiding having sex with them....even though I feel I really, really need it.

Any advice or encouragement would be greatly appreciated. Is this normal or should I be worried?