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Old 02-06-2009, 09:32 PM   #8 (permalink)
james t kirk
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In my experience (as limited as it is as this is a thing I've only taken up in the last 3 months) most swingers are white. Though I have seen black and Asian couples as well.

Age varies by the club.

Wicked - mostly 25 to 40 years old, though there are many couples in their 40's and a few couples in their 50's.

http://www.wickedclub.com/new/home.htm

Definitely more eye candy at this club due to its demographic, however, I'd say there are many couples who don't even venture up to the 2'nd and third floor where the action is (they just hang out at the bar), and many who do who go upstairs just are voyeurs. From there you get into couples who "soft swap", i.e. they don't do penetration, and then finally you get those who go "full swap" The first time I went to this club, I stayed till 4:30 a.m.


Then there is Menage a Quatre

Club M4

An older client base. Virtually no-one in their 20's. People there start in their 30's, the bulk are 40's and 50's and into 60's even.

Definitely a more serious crowd when it comes to knowing why they are there.

First time I went there, I stayed till closing at 3 a.m.


I've enjoyed my experience at both places and I look forward to going back.
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Do swingers care about the other people, besides what they look like?
Sure, no-one wants to be with someone who is obnoxious. Though that being said, so far, the people I've met I don't really desire to meet up with them in the so called real world. I view this as a sexual activity.

Without a doubt, one of THEE most sexual experiences I've ever had in my life to date.




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If you could only swing with the same 2 or 3 couples, would it be ok?
No, I prefer more variety than that.

Since I ventured into this, my friend and I have already had sex with 6 other couples. Usually 1 to 2 per visit (not including each other.)



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Do you think that swinging could be a long term thing for you?
I hope so.



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If someone has had multiple partners (only one at a time) during their dating life, does it make them more likely to be able to separate bonding emotions from sex?
I don't know about others, but I can DEFINITELY separate sex from love, though I want there to be intimacy. (Just no strings attached.)



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Is swinging a way to cope with a fear of being hurt again from a cheating partner?
No, it's a way to have a hell of a memorable evening and it's a lot of fun.


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Would you rather swing with people you have never met before, or with a couple you have been friends with for a few years?
Never met before. I like to keep my life compartmentalized I suppose.


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I am fascinated at the idea of swinging, but I don't think I would be able to be in this type of relationship right now. It is fun to think about, but I would still equate love with sex. Now, if it was a small group of friends, let's say 3 or 4 couples who were all very similar in their views, I could see it working. But, still I think I would need to have 1 or 2 regular relationships first before I would feel comfortable sharing. But, then it turns into that this partner is no different from the next, what is the point of swapping if it's just going to cause tension and drama?
That's the thing, so far, no tension, no drama with my female partner. It's the best relationship I've had in years.

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