Originally Posted by Hyacinthe

The best porn I have ever seen (with the exceptions of the Pirates movies and Porn wars - both hilarious) was a short amateur clip. Was a girl going down on her other half, almost gagging herself but she was so determined to learn to deep throat him (was an instructional video so I could learn to deep throat various things for work) and when she's working on it you can just see his genitalia and his hands, he spent the majority of his time just stroking her hair out of her face, trying to keep it out of her eyes. For some reason those little gestures were far more arousing then watching her blowing him because they showed that there was an actual connection between the two people involved. You don't see that in porn an actual emotional connection between the two participants often and never outside of amateur stuff.

Sorry that was off topic I know but kinda followed on from setties post


I don't rely on porn to learn anything in regards to sex I mean some of the positions they get themselves into just look awkward and I know they would do absolutely nothing for me. I tend to go much more by instinct, mainly because during a big part of my brain shuts off and all I am thinking is "Oh frick that feels good"

So I don't think much of it for me is learned behaviour at all - unless it's something little like playing with his balls while I ride him because I KNOW he will enjoy that. That's partially learned because I know intellectually that they're generally much more sensitive then the penis itself.

But the kissing and tastting and biting and scratching is all instinctual and I think he enjoys that as much if not more then when I am totally into the sex act itself and my brain is not able to remember things on an intellectual level.