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Originally Posted by dlish
i do however feel sorry for the women because they do have to meet the expectations of men who have had years and years of pornstars ingrained into their psyche.
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I don't know about this. It is a topic that keeps coming up again and again and I just think that it is patently false. I'm a man who has seen his fair share of porn over the years. Does it affect my sexual expectations from my partner? Nope. Not at all. Porn is make-believe. It is entertainment for entertainment's sake. It would be the equivalent of saying that if I watched hours and hours of movies about friendly, flying dragons I would suddenly have the expectation that one would show up on my doorstep to fly me to work each morning. I similarly do not expect DD cupped bisexuals to gobble my knob as soon as I step into a room.
To answer the question: I think that a lot of sexual
behavior is learned. I think that a lot of what we
feel during sex is instinctual. I would say that my sexual instinct drives me to want to get off in the most pleasurable way possible usually directly as possible, but my sexual behavior dictates that I also focus on the pleasure of my partner. I have learned that I often want a repeat performance with my sexual partner, immediately, in the near future, and in the long term. The best way to ensure this is to allow some instinct and some learned behavior to control my actions. I guess that may be getting a bit existential or drawing too fine a point on things.