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I have been in relationships with younger men, older men, and men my age. I prefer my age or older, but it's all about maturity, expectations and objectives. I tend to prefer people from my generation, so plus or minus about 5 years is as far as I'll go, if I have to put a number on it. But, this really is a case by case thing. If it feels right for you, then why not? I have never been with a man that much older than me, but I'd say if you're 21, you're still pretty inexperienced and are probably glossing things over. Stay aware and don't let his age dazzle you, if you're not equals in this, you will be easily led. I had a friend who went out and lived with a boyfriend who was in his early 50's when she was in her 20's. It turned out to be a mistake because whereas he had lived most of the stages of life a young adult goes through, she had not. She wanted to go out with friends occasionally, he didn't so much. He'd also give her a hard time if she went without him, and wanted her to stay home. He already had kids, she wanted some of her own. It can be complicated if you're not on the same page.
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Whether we write or speak or do but look
We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.
Fernando Pessoa, 1918
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