good for you for distancing yourself.
Now it's time to live your life. She and those immediately in her life will see to her needs. Time for you to fly. Don't be weighted down by her seeming distress. Seeing your success will give her something to talk about - something to make her proud, or something to talk to her few associates about at the very least.
You will find you do love her. Sometime. The little happy things always come back.