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Originally Posted by Anormalguy
Rejection is a huge issue for some guys (gals as well I would guess). Some guys shake off getting turned down like taking another breath, for others it's like a punch in the gut.
I was a late bloomer, didn't gain any real confidence until my late 20s, after I had been married a few years. Marriage helped me to figure out that women were willing to overlook flaws. Also, in my limited experience, our (male & female) expectations change as we grow older.
One place where I never had any luck with women was at bars. It seemed to me, at the time, that there was way too much competition (possibly true); I anticipated getting turned down before I ever opened my mouth. I was much more relaxed when talking to women at the library, coffee shop, etc.
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That's how I feel, pretty much.
Last night I was feeling like total shit to the point where I was having suicidal thoughts, so I just hopped in my car and went to the bar by the river. I've never liked the bar scene, being a little-bit stereotypical I feel that the women that go there aren't really my type, but I just want to go there to feel a connection with some woman, any woman, for that night, maybe lose my kissing virginity. Anyways, after showing the bouncer two forms of ID because he didn't believe I was a day over 16, I finally got in. It was packed. It was packed with mostly people that looked 35+. The bar was full, so I went straight outside to the docks overlooking the river. I was hoping maybe a few women would come outside too even though it was a bit chilly (even for Florida), but only these 2 ladies who looked 55 talked to me for a few, whom with I joked with, but this wasn't what I was looking for. Stood out there for about 2 hours looking at the boats and the water, then just went home...
I gave it a shot, and it's just not my thing; they aren't my type of people. I dunno what to try next, but I feel out of options...
