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First of all, let me say I'm sorry, Katyq. There's no way around it, breakups suck.
I recently went through this--it took me months to find myself following the combination of my last breakup and the engagement of a dear friend and former lover whom I've always carried a torch for. It was a long, hard period, but I'm so glad I went through it. For me, I had to get to the place where I was happy with myself and my life. I adopted the motto, "What's next?" as a reminder to myself to continually work towards improving myself and my life. I had a mourning period, of course, but after that was over, whenever I felt down I tried to take all my negative energy and channel it into something positive. I also came to place where I was comfortable with it being just me--of course I want someone in my life, but I want the right person. I realized I can still be happy with my life if it's just me. If my only choices are settling or being alone, I'd honestly rather be alone. I'd rather have my friends and my work and my interests than an unhappy romantic situation.
The other thing that helped me a lot was listening to music. Music is a big part of my life; my iTunes currently has 6832 songs. Certain songs helped me to reflect, to let me feel things I wasn't really comfortable feeling. I wore out certain tracks--"One More Time" by Laura Pausini, "Be OK" by Ingrid Michaelson, "Steady As She Goes" by the Raconteurs, and "Tears Dry On Their Own" by Amy Winehouse were on my playlists constantly.
And you know, as soon as I found myself following the breakup...I met someone. It's still very early, but I'm hopeful and happy.
I with you peace and comfort, my friend. What you're feeling is quite normal. You'll find your way.
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"With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,
it is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful. Strive to be happy."
-Desiderata
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