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I have a small inner circle of friends that they jokingly call my "life club." It's my best friend of eight years, my other best friend (he's like my brother) of close to twenty years, two other close friends, and my chavruta (study partner-- it's a very deep relationship in traditional Jewish circles) of four years. I can literally talk about anything with any of these people, and they will not judge, they will accept, they will help, and they will never betray a confidence. I would trust any of them with my life, and I know they would say the same in reverse.
I guess I should now add to the list my fiancee. I trust her the same way, and I was able to tell her very personal things very soon into our relationship. I'm still not used to calling her my fiancee, but I am sure getting used to being comfortable trusting her.
At various times in my life, I've also had therapists I've talked to, which has been very helpful-- I would recommend it to anyone and everyone. But I am not seeing any therapists right now. I've done a lot of that, and I feel pretty able to handle anything that comes along right now, just me, my fiancee, and my life club.
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Dull sublunary lovers love,
Whose soul is sense, cannot admit
Absence, because it doth remove
That thing which elemented it.
(From "A Valediction: Forbidding Mourning" by John Donne)
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