|
Y'know, this sounds a lot like my boyfriend and I. We haven't been dating nearly as long, but it is basically the same situation.
I know everyone is different, but this is what bothers me:
-He is a lot older than I am and has boat-loads more of experience. I get afraid that I won't be as good as other girls he will be with and I will disappoint him.
-Just before I started dating him I fell in love for the first time. For real in love. It was a girl, actually, and I was head-over-heels for her. We dated twice. She cheated on me, talked behind my back, and treated me like dirt. The thought of being physical with anyone still horrifies me. I would be lying if I said I didn't still love her. I wasn't enough for her, but she didn't tell me until it was too late. I am afraid that will happen again.
-I am just a very nervous person. c:
Those are just a few reasons she might have for being afraid. I told my boyfriend for a long time I didn't know what was wrong, but we talk about it now. We talk about my feelings for my ex-girlfriend and my lack of experience compared to him. What he decided was to wait for me, and I think very highly of him for it. I trust him with my life.
If you love her, wait.
If not, you shouldn't pressure her into something she is going to regret when you are gone.
|