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Originally Posted by Tully Mars
Sexual abuse is a bad experience therefore it's not "out of play." As much as you'd like to rule it out I don't see how you can without more info. Info that can only come from her. If she is a victim you're very, very likely the last person she's going to want to discuss the issue with, probably not going to want to discuss it with anyone. Victims of abuse often use denial as a coping tool. Teenage boys are more likely to engage this then girls, IMO. You can have the offender admitting to the acts on video, hell you can have the abuse on video, and a teenage boy will tell you that never happened or that's not me. I've seen girls do the same thing.
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Thanks for your concern, but I truly believe that if she had been sexually abused that she'd be a lot more uncomfortable with anything remotely sexual. Instead I think that it's just more of the fact that a girl's first time can be scary.
I also think that some of you got the wrong message with this post. I'm not hopelessly desperate to get laid, I'm not hopelessly desperate to deflower my SO. All I wanted to know is what kinds of things girls can be afraid of for their first time. I had an idea that the penis being a scary (in their minds) organ was normal, but the things I've read on here helped me understand quite a bit and I think I have firm grounds to move forward with.
I'd like to thank everyone for being so receptive to yet another "I'm a virgin, having sex for the first time, What the hell do I do?!?!" thread, especially given the general immaturity of the topic.
So yeah, Thanks
