Hyacinthe

I didn't answer the poll because I use multiples of the above options. I'm on the pill and my SO always wears a condom.

Ok well as I said we use multiple methods of birth control. I have a hormonal condition which causes me to suffer from amenorrhea (the complete lack of a period), while that sounds great it is not exactly the healthiest thing in the world long term, the pill (combined with some other meds Itake) balances that out. My physician recommended this when my period stopped for 6 months when I was 16 - I've been on the pill ever since and never had any problems. Expense wasn't a huge issue, if it was a choice it might be but without taking the pill I run the risk of serious health complications so /shrug got to just accept the things you can't change.



Going to answer these two together:


My SO had his first daughter when he was 17 (found out about her less then a year ago - she's 12 and gorgeous, currently living in Finland) while he was an exchange student. He is terrified of having another child without knowing that he will be there for the child growing up, he doesn't want weekend visits or school holidays only and neither do I, we want to be there for the first words, the first steps, changing diapers, sleepless nights, the whole shebang. He missed all that once so until we KNOW that this relationship is going to last we're not willing to take the risk of missing any of that if the relationship doesn't work.

If we end up getting married, buying a house and being set up financially then we'd both like to have kids. We've talked about our future together, having kids how we'd raise them, what they might be like and thus far we're both quite fond of the idea. Until we have all that sorted neither of us think that it's right to bring a child into the relationship though.

We both do have a few medical conditions (mine which is helped by taking the pill) that may be passed on but nothing major enough to dissuade us from having a family, I think mainly it's lifestyle for us - we could not afford to raise a child in any decent enironment and until we can do so neither of us is willing to run the risk of me getting pregnant (though I know intellectually that we do everytime we have sex anyways).

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