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I don't really think this is anything new Friendly: with or without overt or sublime sexual undertones, male bonding (and I would posit female bonding) is an important part of your recreation of the family structure. I've got some very good male friends who I definitely love. I know they love me. I don't know that I'd put them before my girlfriend, but there's no sense of conflict. It's a totally different relationship. I'd say they are the brothers I wasn't biologically gifted with. I've been naked around them. I've had situations where people wondered if we were "together," because we are so close. That also goes for some of my relationships with females with whom I'm not romantically involved.
I think the concept that marriages come and go is a new phenomenon, relatively in Western society at least...and probably fairly universally in recent times. That does create a vacuum for stable relationships, and there's a sense in which non-sexual relationships will fill the "family" void in some ways. But I think it's more complicated, possibly. If a marriage was a traditional necessity, or a matter of convenience or social conformity, then I would guess that people in those situations always tried to form relationships that met a greater need to be "understood."
And yeah, if I saw two dudes break out a "peck on the lips," I'd probably think they were gay. Not that I'd care, but it would be a reasonable assumption. A strong kiss on the cheek, when properly intoxicated and in the vein of loving everyone like family - maybe not. Particularly during referenced man-hug. A light kiss on the lips...I'd think not far from a little nibble on the tip of a cock. But I don't see why that's necessarily a problem, if it works inside your friendships.
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