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Originally Posted by punkmusicfan21
I can't be right all the time Sam. I could be completely wrong. But, I think it is legitimate. And that is what I got from what I see in what your not saying. I get from this that there is a lot you're not saying and that is probably a common occurrence with you. Which leads me to think you might not be as great at communicating as you think. That's all.
Again, reading what you said (not knowing who you are), it sounds like a lot of potato potato kind of stuff man. Like you want someone to justify you, not to help you. I'm just trying to help; sorry it's not something you want to hear.
You have very contradictory statements and ideas within the point your trying to communicate; ie: "In the end, I guess it's all for the better. We would've never worked anyway if she wasn't going to tell me what she wanted," and "I'm just curious, I think we have a lot in common". Just sounds a lot like how you REALLY feel is that you want her back and you were trying to get someone to justify you, like me with my story of how we got back together, which is why I explained that I thought you two getting back together probably wouldn't work.
And to answer your question "Whoa, where did that come from? You act as if you know me personally or something," I'm wondering what you expected for an answer? What were you seeking in coming here and asking us? I was being completely honest.
I hate the internet because you can't hear a tone of voice, so know I'm not being snippy or defensive. Just honest. You see honesty doesn't always have to result in a situation where the other person is being defensive. Which, to me, and I'm sorry but this is what I see, indicates that you need some work on accepting and communicating. And that comes from growing up. Growing up after distinguishing that you aren't going it. And growing up will not occur in a relationship that obviously stunts it.
I hope that explains my post.
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When I originally posted this thread I honestly just came here looking for advice. Once the discussion started, I will admit that I got defensive when certain abilities of mine were called into question and at that point I have have been looking for justification. I was in a somewhat vulnerable state then and I'm in an even more vulnerable state now. The wound is still fresh, so to speak.
And yes, you are correct in saying that I contradicted myself. You have to understand that I'm an emotional wreck right now. My mind is racing... one minute I'll want her back, the next minute I'll never want to see her again. Expecting someone to be rational at a time like this is kind of a lot to ask.
I appreciate your attempt to help but I do not respond well to your level of harshness (or brutality, as you put it.) Especially at a time like this.
Anyway, I agree about communicating on the internet. Judging someone by how they communicate on an internet forum and assuming they communicate the same way in the real world probably isn't the best idea. Granted, this is all you have to go on, but I still don't think it's fair for you to make judgements based on what very little information I've posted here.
You're right though, there is a long story to this that I really don't care to go into here.