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Originally Posted by Samtallica
Whoa, where did that come from? You act as if you know me personally or something. Trust me, I may have lacked sexual experience, but communicating effectively is a life experience and I had 5 years on her in that respect.
I'm not saying that she is completely at fault for this breakup. I know there are things I could've done differently. I'm just venting the frustrations I had with her. Notice, I said I felt like her lack of communication was the cause of A LOT of our problems, not all of them.
Anyway, in all honesty, I was just curious. I do feel like there is a possibility of us getting back together because despite our differences, we did have a lot in common, but I definitely do not think the wedding will be back on anytime soon. We would obviously have a lot to work on before we were ready to do that again.
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I can't be right all the time Sam. I could be completely wrong. But, I think it is legitimate. And that is what I got from what I see in what your not saying. I get from this that there is a lot you're not saying and that is probably a common occurrence with you. Which leads me to think you might not be as great at communicating as you think. That's all.
Again, reading what you said (not knowing who you are), it sounds like a lot of potato
potato kind of stuff man. Like you want someone to justify you, not to help you. I'm just trying to help; sorry it's not something you want to hear.
You have very contradictory statements and ideas within the point your trying to communicate; ie: "In the end, I guess it's all for the better. We would've never worked anyway if she wasn't going to tell me what she wanted," and "I'm just curious, I think we have a lot in common". Just sounds a lot like how you REALLY feel is that you want her back and you were trying to get someone to justify you, like me with my story of how we got back together, which is why I explained that I thought you two getting back together probably wouldn't work.
And to answer your question "Whoa, where did that come from? You act as if you know me personally or something," I'm wondering what you expected for an answer? What were you seeking in coming here and asking us? I was being completely honest.
I hate the internet because you can't hear a tone of voice, so know I'm not being snippy or defensive. Just honest. You see honesty doesn't always have to result in a situation where the other person is being defensive. Which, to me, and I'm sorry but this is what I see, indicates that you need some work on accepting and communicating. And that comes from growing up. Growing up after distinguishing that you aren't going it. And growing up will not occur in a relationship that obviously stunts it.
I hope that explains my post.