Originally Posted by punkmusicfan21

Let's not kid ourselves Sam, you aren't asking out of curiosity; you're gaging. It happened naturally, we both drifted back to each other. That was after four months of being apart. The thing is, neither of us wanted it, per se, which is what made it possible. We weren't running after it so when we got back together it was a new adventure, not more of the same.

We hadn't broken up for a reason, but we certainly had the same kind of communication problems you described, at first. A lot of it is being patient in finding a way that works for her. Communicating your feelings to a partner can be very difficult at times, and sometimes its in how the other partner is asking. So I'd start there next time.

I also think it's kind of strange that you'd say she is five years ahead of you but that you feel like you were doing everything right. Which shows me that you just kind of need to grow up. And I'll be honest, brutally again (I'm sorry), I don't think you getting back together with her is going to solve it, I think it'll hinder it.

Take what you've learned, which is to be open minded, patient, and not so fucking stubborn, and also what you know you want in a relationship; something I'd hazard a guess and say you didn't know before this girl.

Hope that helps.