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Originally Posted by dalnet22
A response might be, "if your friends care about how you act or how you dress, then they're not real friends." Is this to say that good friends will tolerate these things?
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It's to say that good friends won't CARE about these things. So tolerating or not is not the issue with good friends. They simply will look past that and it will be a non-issue. Good friends are non-judgmental.
You remind me of a guy I used to casually date... He felt so bad wearing a baseball cap to an "indie" show and wondered what people would think about him. He seriously deliberated back and forth with me as to whether he should wear this hat or not, looking in the mirror, trying it on, taking it off, looking in the mirror again, and repeat. I felt like I was dating a girl!
I am telling you this because from my (a girl's) perspective, this is VERY unattractive behavior. Attractiveness is so much more than physical attractiveness, whether or not a girl thinks you're "hot"... Confidence is a big player in whether a person appears attractive or not. This is way more a confidence issue than it is a trust issue, IMO.