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the root of this is expectation, that is so damaging. this also goes along with people in porn, or the ideal image of beauty (often photoshopped), to find the "perfect" attractive mate. Does porn dictate your view of sex, positions, that you need to shave, etc? It is all similar. Girls also tend to have that fairytale wedding in their minds, and socialized to strive for this... Think of all those TLC shows about weddings, Buff Brides, Bridezilla... or whatever. This socializes us for the image-valued wedding. I often think we focus more on the wedding than the relationship itself. No wonder there is so many people divorced.. It is sometimes hard to get out of the fairytale or idealized mentality since it's culturally all around us. If you live by this, you may end up putting your partner on a pedestal...
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