Vigilante

Not that this is my bag either (not a scat guy haha), but ladies, try to remember that most mens' fantasies are probably far outside of the realm of normality you expect them to be in

However odd it may be, if you take one for the team, he may expect it (or suggest even stranger requests) down the road. I suspect this act is really a form of dominance, because "shitting on somebody" is usually what you mention when someone is being socially dominated, at work or elsewhere. See if he's into less messy (yet covert, because he didn't exactly ask for leather and whips) forms of domination, such as being spanked or anal play, or maybe even being tied up or being peed on. Hey it may not be what you think about when you wake up in the morning, but he might like it, and it might be something you grow to enjoy once you observe his experiences. Point is, just saying "no, honey would be a big letdown, plus a huge ego hit since he's trying to open up in ways he can't in social situations, but "no honey, but I'm willing to try this other thing if you're interested" would let him know that 1) you can't do scat, but in the nicest way possible and 2) that you're still game for some other sexually deviant behavior if he wants to go for it. If your suggestions aren't a turn on for him, see if he'll suggest something else. If he's not playing along, then try to give him a good fucking and he'll get over it. Trust me on that one, when my wife forces me into makeup sex (force meaning strips down, because once I see her my mood hardly ever goes any direction but up LOL) I hardly ever hold onto whatever was making me upset in the first place.

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