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I know that, but it's deeper than that and hard to explain. I'm an odd case, and that may be something you don't pick up from me on the web. I spent 4 years in an orphanage (met her while I was there), was on the way to trial (looking at 2 to 20 inside if the judge felt it was necessary), was about to drop out with my GED already finished and at a dead end job, was treated as a near psychopath at the orphanage, spent lots of time either fighting, close to fighting, or beating people down that I lived with when they went to bed, or making booby traps and other creative mischief for the staff to stumble into, and stealing food, beer and smokes from the local drive-ins. My off time I spent in the woods living off the land. Basically, I was going nowhere fast, and many people felt I was a hopeless case and had very little idea what was going on in my head. My medical records from there reflect that when they say in bold: DO NOT ARGUE WITH HIM, DO NOT BOX HIM IN A CORNER!. I found that to be quite humorous.
Anyways, it took her mom to actually say "come live with us" and then tell me if I was going to date her daughter I had to go to school and graduate. I brought all my grades up and did nearly anything I wanted as long as my grades held up (orphanage kept us under lock and key, big difference) and when I got suspended for one day, I nearly got kicked out of the house. That was the end of suspensions for me. Wife and I lived in separate rooms, and believe it or not, when we did get married, we both lost our virginity to each other. Her mom is now my mom, since I wasn't raised my my mother, but rather my drunk and violently abusive grandfather. She saved my life and my wife gave me a reason to pull myself out of the hole I was in. I honestly would be either dead or in prison if I hadn't met her and her parents. They were even at the courthouse before I lived with them, which is where I was told I could live with them if they would sign for my bond. So from there her mom showed me what it means to have a mother, and her dad showed me how to be a man instead of an angry teenager with a death wish.
So to say that there are several "right for me" might be possible in the genetic/biological sense, and even in the cultural sense, but none of them could have helped me this way, and half of them would have probably been a party to my crimes if I had dated them.
So when looking at this, you are looking at her and her parents, because they'd played much much more of a role than normal. Do you still believe the statistic?
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