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I think it's normal to forge closer bonds with people who you understand and who understand you better.
I'd say total polar opposite friends are possible, though it's harder if the issues are important ethical or moral ones.
I have at least one friend who I've grown to love to bits who I once considered cutting off completely. For the simple reason that her attitude to life was very different to my own and I couldn't understand or appreciate it.
At the time, my mother gave me some good advice: not all friends have to be best friends. It doesn't matter if they don't fit your expectations of a friend. If you still like them despite their flaws, and your life is better with them around, it's ok to let petty differences go.
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Whether we write or speak or do but look
We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.
Fernando Pessoa, 1918
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