There is a thread in the Ladies Lounge about Women and their views on Settling. (I.e. pairing up with a man who they feel isn't really all that they want, however, they don't want to spend the rest of their life alone, so they "settle". Since I'm a boy, I can't respond in the Ladies Lounge, but I thought I'd but in my 2 cents anyway and start a new thread here.
http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/ladies-...-settling.html
The word "settling" as taken within the context of a relationship is mainly a word that women use. You won't hear a bunch of men gossiping away saying, "Boy, he really settled for her. He could have done so much better" Men just don't look at it that way. We will comment on another guy's relationship sure. For example, "Man, he married a bitch". But that's about it. Generally you just figure that your friend is happy and so be it.
Women on the other hand, they never stop worrying about "settling". They are constantly analyzing and re-analyzing their relationship. They can convince themselves of just about anything it would seem.
I had been using an Internet Dating site for a time. I've met some women and dated a few for various lengths of time. The one thing I find funny is how often I will actually read right in a woman' s profile, "I won't settle", or my all time favourite, "I subscribe to the idea of "Better off Alone than poorly Accompanied"" I know the second one because she actually sent me an email. My golden rule is never respond to a woman who has anything in her profile about "settling". But, "Better off Alone than Poorly Accompanied" - that just took the cake. I sent her a note back saying that I wasn't interested and the reason was that anyone who said anything so crass in her profile as that was not someone I'd be interested in. (She blocked me from any further communications.
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In my experiences using Lavalife, I am amazed at the number of late 30's early 40's women who have never been married, never lived with anyone, who state, "I won't settle" I guess they feel that they are somehow deserving of the THEE perfect male. I have news - He doesn't exist.
I wonder if this was the same say 40 or 50 years ago, or this is a product of our times. Women are able to make their own living. (A good thing.) They don't need to depend on any man anymore (also a good thing), but they now keep searching and searching for The Perfect Man. It's a futile search.
I also wonder if it's a thing more prevalent in single women in their mid 30's and 40's? Do 20 somethings also say, "I won't settle" or are they still young enough that they are not as jaded as their older sisters?
I find the photo below amusing. Not for its content, but rather for the different reactions it causes between the sexes.
Women think it's funny because it describes how the supply of men out there really is that pitiful.
Men think it's funny because it shows how unrealistic women's expectations are these days and how stubborn they are in finding "The Perfect Man"
