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Sex is a lot of different things to me, depending on the situation. I could never classify it as one thing in particular because I am looking to accomplish different things with it at different times. In one instance it can be a passionate embrace with someone I love. In other instances it could be a release of aggression or an exploration of pleasure. At times it can simply be a personal challenge or even a workout. I try not to idealize sex, I just focus on what I enjoy. The sights and sounds are what thrill me the most. In the more intimate encounters, I enjoy those breathy moans from my partner that tell me she's totally.. feeling me. In the more energetic and aggressive bouts, I like Spoiler: looking down to see my big dick absolutely demolishing that little pussy.
One point of contention I've always had with many others is that I can separate love and sex completely. I can have sex with someone I don't love because, as stated above, what I get out of it isn't emotional. That isn't to say that I can't have emotional sex, or that sex can't help strengthen a relationship. A lot of people see sex as the last step in bonding with a person - completely vet their potential as an emotional partner and THEN have sex to seal the deal. Well, I see it as the first step in bonding with a person. Maybe its just my history of having so many female friends who are JUST friends because I never made a move, now it makes no sense to me to have a relationship without knowing if your two bodies fit together well. And with a guy my size, its important to know that I wont be knee deep in love with someone BEFORE we find out that she just cant handle me.
Its not all logistics though. I recognize that sex can be more intense when you have feelings for the person. I just don't see the need to have it so intense all the time. I like variety and frivolity. I disagree with holding sex on some high fuckin' pedestal. To me, its absolutely delusional to reserve it for only the closest to heart. I AM an animal and I have my animal needs.
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