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What is Sex? v2
I have been considering making this thread for a while but it took me long enough to write this out.
Some of you will recall a previous “what is sex” thread that left me quite disappointed. I really thought that the thread topic looked interesting, because I thought it would be a discussion on what is sex to each one of us. But it wasn't.
So I decided to make a new thread about exactly that.
It may seem like a topic we’ve discussed at length before, but I don’t think we have…not quite like this.
What I’m curious to hear about is:
1) What is sex to you?
2) What does sex feel like for you?
Here’s my contribution, to get the ball rolling.
Sex to me is something essential to any human life. I have thought in a sexual manner (more or less innocently, but always instinctively) since I was about 7. At least that’s as far back as I can remember feeling turned on by anything sex related, even if it was in a naïve way. I have always found the idea of sex fascinating, but also realized early on it wasn’t something you talked about publicly, at least that’s what it seemed like because people would giggle or pretend it hadn’t happened if it was mentioned.
Like most people, I hoped that orgasm was going to be this amazing thing I hadn’t yet experienced. I was wrong. It was this very pleasant thing I’d been doing to myself for years. I was quite taken aback when I realized that’s what it was. It didn’t make me enjoy it less though. But suddenly it seemed trivial. Since I’d never had sex at that point, I started hoping that it would be even better than lonely orgasms. In some ways, it turned out to be. In other ways, not so much.
The closeness of another body with sex is amazing. It’s also incredibly sexy to watch another person’s body moving with yours, and all the little details you can be mesmerized by. The sounds, the smells, the way your body feels like it’s on fire. The feeling of someone penetrating your body where it wants to be penetrated is pretty unique. Like it’s supposed to be that way, an awesome fit. (I suppose this goes for guys, only the other way around!)
For me sex feels hot and wet, and I feel the animal in me come out. I also will feel an intense connection with the other person, during the sex. I’m not sure if it’s emotional or not but it feels like it when I’m into the person in other ways beside just sex. Coming close to orgasm in the presence of another is a very powerful sensation to me. Actually having an orgasm with another feels like thousands of tiny little explosions of pleasure leading up to one big one going through all my senses like a tingling, burning feeling and I want to squeal in ecstasy. That’s about as close as I’m able to get to describing it. It's slightly different than giving one to yourself, only slightly to me anyway.
Sex seems essential to any healthy, lasting relationship between two people who are romantically involved. To me it’s an urge…it’s got to be the best feeling/sensation (combination) in the world and who doesn’t want to have that as often as possible?
Don't be shy...share your thoughts on this. I'm wondering how different it is for each one of us?
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Whether we write or speak or do but look
We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.
Fernando Pessoa, 1918
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