After being with my husband for 11 years now (married for almost 8), we don't light up the room with "sparkle" anymore, but I love him more than ever. The things we've been through and the rough patches we've had has actually made it better. I was obsessed with losing the sparkle a few years back. I was making myself miserable trying to get back the newlywed feel. Then he was diagnosed with cancer (gone now) and my thinking shifted completely. The fact that my heart still jumps when I see him after work and that whenever he's near me I feel comfortable in my own skin, which is a real rarity, is what I love the best about him.
As far as things we do for each other... Neither one is big on gifts or trinkets, so we schedule a night on the town. I'll dress up (another rarity) and we'll go out and eat and go to a movie. It is kind of expensive, but we don't do it very often and that keeps the cost down and the novelty of it up. Sometimes at Christmas or my birthday, he'll surprise me with a gift. The look on his face when he knows he's surprised me is actually worth more than the gift.
As for everyday things, the fact that he puts up with me
. He does the dishes and laundry most of the time. I'll pick up food for him when I'm at the grocery store that I know he likes but might not remember or get for himself. Just little things like that when the opportunity comes along.