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Originally Posted by Cynthetiq
Sparkle? There's a sparkle? It's not something that is qualitatively shiny, Disney storybook they lived happily ever after.
We go through things together, as opposed to seperately. We like to be with each other more than any other person on the planet. She is my favorite person to be with at any time.
But sparkle?
All things lose their shininess and dull over time.
But relationships deepen, they don't get shinier or brighter. They deepen, in understanding and emotions. Bonds get harder to break because there's more attachment. It's not about giving or getting a new present, yes there's a part of being thoughtful. When you see a spouse worry over the crumpled body in a hospital, that's not shiny, yet that's very important to a relationship.
Relationships have their ups and downs. They have their hardships and tests. Deeping your emotional attachment and understanding of the other person, helps get through those times than holding some tchotcke that was given on some random day.
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What does your wife say?
Don't get me wrong, I understand your point, and I agree with it. Emotional bonds are the most important thing in any relationship, obviously. But that doesn't mean that small gestures are meaningless, or that simple, thoughtful gifts have no place. I think you definitely need both. There is no need to minimize the small things that people do for each other, which anyway only serve to complement their deep emotional bonds... what's the harm?
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Originally Posted by ShaniFaye
nope sorry, Dave and I hold that title 
are and I still sparkly? damn straight, Like Jewels mentioned it doesnt matter what we are doing we have fun with it whether its cleaning, shopping, watching tv, surfing online. We leave silly notes for each other around the house, in our cars, different places online. He stops and buys me beef jerky or reeses or some cheap penguin or fairy "something" at the convenience store just "because" and I buy him anything star wars, joker, dragon related.
It doesnt take much to let the other person know that you were thinking of them when you werent with them and to me that means everything |
Exactly, Shani. I think you and I both know that we'll always agree on this stuff!
hehehe.