Thank you abaya for that post. Quite helpful. A question though: what goes through your mind when you're thinking of something special/romantic to do for ktsp? And notably, what went through your mind before it became a routine?
I'm a very large creature of habit. Once I start doing small little things frequently for her, I won't stop. The thing is the kind of things you mention rarely pop into my mind, despite how often I think of her. Once I get it -started-, it'll -continue-. I'm just looking for ways to get it started
. And it's really not the specifics I need, I'd love to come up with them on my own. But I come up with things to do for her on average once every other week, and often they can't carry through from external limitations (I'm not the sole user of my car, LDR, etc.) so the frequency they -occur- is even less. Do you have a certain ritual every day where you brainstorm what you can do for ktsp in the near future?
I don't know, but just reading the responses in this thread is helping. Thanks =)
EDIT: @Jewels: I realized your first paragraph as I was reading this. I was like "What am I expecting these people to do for me? Say a magic spell and suddenly I'll be motivated? This is something I have to do on my own."
And the path of least resistance causes problems for me in FAR more than just my relationship: its not a relationship flaw, but a character flaw of mine.
And from my point of view we DO have an ideal relationship. Neither of us is perfect, and neither of us expects perfection from the other. I've mostly realized from the last couple replies that this thread isn't going to do much more than make me feel good about myself/us, but thank you for your input.
If you want to continue this thread, new topic!: How would you rate your own relationship on its 'sparkle' level? What do you do for your partner (and vice versa) that really makes you just love them more each day?