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Originally Posted by anti fishstick
onesnow, those are great suggestions. Thanks!!
xerxy, so you're saying i should spend more time BY MYSELF rather than with other people? I've been trying to hang out with a bunch of people to keep busy (i've lived here three years and *just* starting to meet people...), but it is tiring because i'm an introvert and i'm not used to the weekly/biweekly demands of my new group. i don't feel like i have a lot to offer people, and can't seem to connect well.
i am actually pretty socially awkward and inept, though, i would not want to hurt or offend others, that's true.
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I think there has to be a balance between doing stuff with your SO, doing stuff with your new friends, and doing stuff by yourself. To truly be independent means to do things regardless of whether your SO or friends are available to join you, and to do things for yourself, just because they please you. If you are just doing stuff with your new friends, that's not balance, and for an introvert like you, I think you'll find doing stuff on your own by yourself to be more socially satisfying. It's also not independence, as you're still dependent on someone--just a different someone.