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Originally Posted by Nisses
I've got an annoying habit
When I am under stress I tend to shout/swear at a point where something really doesn't go my way.
I do this quite vigorously for a good 2 minutes usually until I conquer it along with the stress, after which I get my best work done.
My gf has complained about all the swearing already, so I try to do it when she can't hear me.
My question is: Do you have a similar problem? Or if not: Would you consider this a real problem?
I look at it as releasing steam and don't have an issue with it, but I can see how some people might take offense. I'd like to know if those that take offense are in the vast majority, and if I'm effectively just lying to myself that I don't have a problem  |
You most certainly have a problem. Shouting and swearing indiscriminately is a sign of a weak mind. If you are taking things out on your girlfriend then it's abuse. Please stop. Shouting and swearing is intimidation and violent. There is no reason for it.
If you need to vent, there are other outlets. I urge you to seek counseling and get help.
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Originally Posted by jewels
If it works for you, don't stop. She should be willing to accept that this is your way of coping and leave the room if she finds it annoying.
It's not abnormal. And if it leads to better things and maintains your sanity, keep up the good work.
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It is indeed abnormal. This is abuse, plain and simple. Ask yourself, would you do this to your kids? Your mom? In church? Even in the company of men, like on the basketball court. The guy who does this is always asked to leave. If he is a repeat offender, he is not welcome back.
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Originally Posted by genuinegirly
This is a common habit.
Still, I side with your girlfriend. There is nothing flattering, loving, or kind about yelling obscenities. If you feel like exploring new ways of expressing anger and frustration, she might not leave you.
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Yes, just because it is common does not make it acceptable. This type of behavior is the precursor for domestic violence.
She may be too scared to leave actually. People who shout and swear at their loved ones hold immense power over the abused.